Most of the time, the biggest critic we have is ourselves.
How many times have we told ourselves that we aren’t rich enough, smart enough or beautiful enough to achieve something?
We often put ourselves down by comparing ourselves to perfection, without realizing that perfection does not exist. Perfection is a relative judgement.
What we only see are the facades, and we are mistaken in comparing ourselves to an illusory perfection.
Today I write about Hope.
This is a very important subject for me because I see how much this force directs all of our lives everyday. I also see how the lack of hope inadvertently brings people into places that they do not want to be in.
It is hard to define hope. The lexical definition of “a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen”, does a weak job of defining this compelling emotion. Though hard to define, this “hope” that we look for is something extremely familiar to all of us.
The young kid who is looking forward to a specific gift for a birthday. The lovestruck teen wanting to ask a crush out to the prom. The fledgling salesperson desperate for a first sale. The novice entrepreneur, hoping that the next month will be a good one. The sincere man, hoping that he will finally be given a chance by someone he has loved for years. The struggling parent, wishing that the bills and tuition fees can be paid on time. The aging relative who is faced with a grave illness, and desperately wants relief. The situations are endless. Continue reading
When reaching for a goal, do you put a time deadline on it?
We live in a world where time is a measure of reality. The best way to be able to make goals happen is to create them with a time frame.
Do not get into the trap of being a “someday” person. Do not say: “Someday I’ll be wealthy”; “Someday I’ll have healthier habits”; “Someday I will get my dream house.” “Someday I’ll free myself from this addiction”. And so on and so forth.
Your deadline does not have to be set in stone, but there has to be a general sense of when it will become real for you. Because when you create a timeline for your goals, you are making it cross over from a concept in your mind into a possibility. Furthermore, you are also creating an internal motivation for yourself to ACT.
If you fail to meet the goal in time, it is okay. You can always readjust your deadline. What matters is that you make a deadline at all.
So before this day ends, why don’t you ask yourself: “have I put a deadline on my bigger goals?”
Do not wish for a “someday”. Goals are dreams with a deadline.
-A Garlic Man